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3. Assume the other person is shy

假设对方比较害羞。

So if you’re shy and they’re shy, how are you going to meet? Well, since you’re the one reading this article, you have the advantage and can assume the other person is too shy to say anything. So, overcome your fear and walk over to them. Talk about the weather or baseball or if they’re holding a book or magazine, ask what they’re reading. You’d be amazed at how many connections are made by simply saying, “some weather we’re having, huh?”

如果你很害羞，对方也很害羞，相互还怎么去认识呢?既然你看到了这篇文章，何不学学这招：假设对方太害羞，都不敢轻易开口讲话。这样，你便能战胜恐惧，勇敢向对方走去了。你可以先谈谈天气或棒球，如果对方手里拿着书或杂志，那就问问他在读什么。你会讶然发现，其实有时候一句简单的“天气真糟糕，是吧?”就能开启一段新友谊。

4. Practice

多加尝试。

Just like anything else, you can’t get good at something until you practice it. Take the opportunity, wherever you are, to talk to strangers (yes, I know what your mother said. I say the same thing to my kids). You will probably feel awkward at first. Perhaps even a little bit silly. But you will find that after a while, it becomes almost second nature to talk with people at the store or the park。

和其他事情一样，交朋友也需要“熟能生巧”。不管什么时候，只要有机会就请尝试跟陌生人搭话。(好吧，我知道你老妈告诉过你什么，因为我也跟我家小孩说过不要和陌生人说话。)刚开始你可能会觉得怪怪的，甚至有点蠢不拉几;但过不了多久你会发现，跟商店或公园里的陌生人攀谈几乎成了自来熟的事儿!

5. Find common ground

寻找共同点。

While you’re chatting with someone, pay attention to the things they seem to like — or notice where you are. If you’re at the car parts store, ask about their car interests. If you’re at the farmers’ market, ask if they have a garden. Find out if they have kids, go fishing, whatever. Most likely, you will have something to talk with this new person about。

当你跟人攀谈时，要留心对方可能喜欢什么，或注意一下当时的场合。如果是在汽车零件店，你可以跟对方谈谈车子话题;如果是在菜场，你可以问他是不是自己种菜。你还可以问问对方有没有小孩啊、钓不钓鱼啊之类的，这样你们就能有更多话题谈啦。